tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post5354731247125673384..comments2023-09-16T07:15:41.115-07:00Comments on A Resident's Wife: Hello & Emotional VomitTheFamousStaciehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07755461640864154378noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-91294410429953845382011-07-20T08:14:26.765-07:002011-07-20T08:14:26.765-07:00@ mrsogg - I just went and read some of the post. ...@ mrsogg - I just went and read some of the post. Seems kinds silly that the only reason anyone can propose the marriage won't work is that we ladies just are incapable of understanding what these poor doctors go through. My guess is that all us women are absolutely supportive and empathetic.TheFamousStaciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755461640864154378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-51724140005209503022011-07-20T07:41:01.616-07:002011-07-20T07:41:01.616-07:00Ack! I just read further down on that long "...Ack! I just read further down on that long "divorce rate" thread on SDN and now some people say the current rate for physicians is more like 60%....oh, well if we lived by statistics no one would get married in the first place, right?MrsOgghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01549825695095671073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-66212741217909014212011-07-20T07:14:53.541-07:002011-07-20T07:14:53.541-07:00Haha! I can't even remember all the times I&#...Haha! I can't even remember all the times I've heard people say things about docs and how they all cheat and leave thier wives. I think this is a myth because I've read that physicians have around a 30% divorce rate which would be lower than the average right? I wish I could find some of the sources I read in the past...although they were internet so I'm not totally sure of the accuracy. I did find this thread about it on SDN http://forums.studentdoctor.net/archive/index.php/t-4004.html that had some interesting info and comments. But, I have to agree with all of you that marriage is what you make of it. So, let's not become like a lot of these doctors wives I've seen on threads that are just so dissilusioned and bitter. My goal at the start of residency is to focus on my husbands best qualites and the reasons I fell in love with him in the first place. I mignt also try the cookie call tradition...that sounds like fun.MrsOgghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01549825695095671073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-90087442914072298802011-07-18T09:15:21.650-07:002011-07-18T09:15:21.650-07:00You know you are a middle-aged housewife with too ...You know you are a middle-aged housewife with too many kids when this worry, the cheating,is the last thing on your mind. Lol. I worry more about my hubby driving into something due to sleep deprivation. Or having someone die on the table and his feelings of responsibility. I worry more about whether we will know each other at the end of this long long separation (emotional not physical) and whether actual practice will be better.Alaskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00765183693320016883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-19874764466880728442011-07-14T09:27:51.984-07:002011-07-14T09:27:51.984-07:00@Stacie
I do understand the rationale behind maki...@Stacie<br /><br />I do understand the rationale behind making cookies. My mom did the same thing once my dad stared practicing (she made samosas + tandoori chicken!) Looking back, it was probably a wise move because she immediately had an "in" with the female doctors and it made my dad really popular. I'm just saying a cheater will cheat, a loyal man will stay loyal, regardless of baked goods. And from what I'm gathering, we're all fabulous ladies who lucked out in the male loyalty department :)Mrs. Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00203000504655652613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-21636086396887675592011-07-13T19:31:20.058-07:002011-07-13T19:31:20.058-07:00Welcome Camille! So many, many truths...
Ok, I w...Welcome Camille! So many, many truths...<br /><br />Ok, I was recently told by the [real] doc wives org women that if we didn't have regular date nights each week during residency our marriage would crash and burn.<br />Perhaps so, but I still don't have an extra $40 just to pay the babysitter, much less additional money for a date. fantastic.<br /><br />Ladies, ladies! Don't be hatin' on the cookies, yo! Internship year was the worst for us. I felt like an outsider. He felt totally disconnected with the family. It was misery.<br />I started a tradition with our 3 children of baking cookies on every call night and delivering them to him at the hospital with the kids. He loves it, the kids love it, and the nurses (he shares) love it so much they baked me a cookie cake and sent it home with him.<br /><br />Back before I found a way connect with him and his career, he was getting asked out by nurses and whatnot. Not anymore, thank goodness.<br /><br />I'm not saying that cookies save marriages. But it can make him feel loved on a long busy call night.<br /><br />It's not about the cookies, more the thought and effort. It can be starbucks, Chinese take-out, fresh socks and toothbrush with a note.<br /><br />I am glad ya'll don't fear the hot nurse. I DO! Welcome to my nightmares!TheFamousStaciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755461640864154378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-18284154698717126412011-07-13T19:26:18.305-07:002011-07-13T19:26:18.305-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.TheFamousStaciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07755461640864154378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-24555000362606483592011-07-13T14:55:17.475-07:002011-07-13T14:55:17.475-07:00"I want my husband to love his job. I want hi..."I want my husband to love his job. I want him to enjoy the people at work. But I want our marriage, and our family, to win."<br /><br />Yes ma'am! I agree 100% I hear so many people argue about how a doctor should put his patients before his own family, I just want to scream! Lawyers don't put their clients first, contractors don't care about their crews, and teachers don't love their students more than their own kids. Doctors are real people with real lives outside their workplace, just like at any other job.<br /><br />"Our marriage does have a real enemy (and it ain't a nurse)"<br /><br />Just to add my two cents on that issue--it doesn't matter what your husband does, or what you look like, even if you make yummy cookies, if he is going to cheat, it is because of something wrong with HIM, not you. I mean come on, even Sandra Bullock got cheated on.Mrs. Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00203000504655652613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4741749161353390550.post-10995422314389190962011-07-13T03:01:32.064-07:002011-07-13T03:01:32.064-07:00YAY! Welcome Camille! I have some of these same ...YAY! Welcome Camille! I have some of these same insecurities stemming from past experiences with not-so-trustworthy men, and I tend to be a little Stepford wifish myself sometimes to over-compensate. Really these issues are mine and have nothing to do with Ben or any hot nurse, but of course, I project them onto him. Ben and I have been married for 7 years now, and I have always been able to trust him completely because I know he is a loyal and honest man, and he puts the Lord first, even above me. I like what you said about your marriage having an enemy, and it isn't a nurse. I think if our marriages are partnerships with each other and the Lord, we will be much more likely to "win," no matter what obstacles or hot nurses that come into our lives. <br /><br />Welcome again! See you soon, I hope!Colleenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04968253848767704100noreply@blogger.com